Names again!

Something positive for a change. because i’ve been carping for so long about how the powers that be get stuff wrong. And earlier this week, i realised that maybe – hearing of yet another silly case to afflict an online friend – we could do something to help peeps get it less wrong.

So instead of just complaining, this post has links to a couple of useful resources – and a poem to, i hope, cheer you up. Read the rest of this entry »

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Cracks in the wall: the Walsh trial

The farce that was the trial of Simon Walsh, and which ended in acute embarrassment for police and prosecuting authorities in Kingston Crown Court this week exposes three fundamental flaws in the dishonesty that has always been the establishment approach to this legislation.

Collectively, these underline the instinctive reaction of many groups who were vehemently opposed to the law as it made its way through parliament: that you didn’t need the detail of the law to be opposed to it; you needed merely to understand that the law on extreme porn handed powers that were both wide and ill-defined to the authorities, and for that reason alone it should be feared. Read the rest of this entry »

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Twixt stealth and authenticity

Should i write some “trans porn”? Read the rest of this entry »

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And now, the end is near…

…for this blog. Read the rest of this entry »

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On the boards again…

A very good evening: one in which i added to my growing experience and confidence in working the stage of various cabaret venues around and about London – and one for which i should extend heartfelt thanks to the master of ceremonies at the Velvet Tongue, Ernesto Sarezale. Read the rest of this entry »

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Twitter retribution for sexual assault

A 17-year-old Kentucky girl who was upset by the plea deal reached by a pair of teenagers who sexually assaulted her is now facing a contempt charge for tweeting their names in violation of a court order.

As regular readers may be aware, i am something of a stickler for legal process, leading me, at times, to take positions that a seriously unpopular on major cases – particular those involving (sexual) violence. Becaused much of the time, i believe the law gets things more or less right – and i’m not too keen on those of us distant from the process re-hashing cases with a fraction of the information available in court.

But not here. Not this time. Because when it comes to this all-too-common sort of juvenile nastiness, the rights of the victim seem increasingly to take second place to those of the perpetrator. Read the rest of this entry »

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Hard limit for the boy?

So. He’s happily accompanied me to various Prides, helped the London lesbian contingent by dishing out fridge magnets in Bristol, hovered nervously around the edges of an EDLcounter-demo – and even joined the massed ranks of women’sorgs on slutwalk, where he even learnt the chant of the day.

Closer to home, our family is a poster for diversity, with recently the entire rainbow – L, G, B and T – represented in just three individuals sat around our dinner table (myself, his mum and his uncle: i leave it to others to guess how that works).

But,with an up and coming charity event in Stamford next month, have i finally found his hard limit – in tutus and wings and magic wands? Read the rest of this entry »

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Truth, tact and jelly beans

It was definitely a fun weekend…something of a busman’s holiday for me, as I managed to combine taking part in and writing about Bristol Pride professionally with a day out in my old stomping ground of Bath and Bristol with the boy.

It was, too, a beginning to a conversation with him that has been long brewing …around tact and secrecy and discretion and lying and just where the boundary lies between those dreadfully adult ideas. Read the rest of this entry »

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The perils of passing

Given that passing is allegedly the holy grail of all transition,it might come as a surprise when i admit that it has me thoroughly floored.

For twice, now, in the space of 48 hours, being accepted as who i am has had me in a tizz, wondering whether i ought not to out myself “just in case”. Read the rest of this entry »

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A “fanniversary”

Stirring, yesterday morning, i am momentarilyh surprised to be greeted with a cry of “Happy Fanniversary!”

But i click, quickly enough.

Though it seems like a matter of weeks, it is now the first year anniversary of a surgical event that to many seemed, still seems, one of the biggest decisions you can take in your life….and to me was but a temporary inconcenience. Read the rest of this entry »

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