What was here…what isn’t any more…is a question i probably shouldn’t have asked.
Shouldn’t, because by asking it, i probably contributed to the very effect i was concerned with: the trivialisation of rape.
It began with the admission i had used the r-word in a context that reflected a kind of violence – against the trans community – but that following a question from a reader, i had qualms over my use of that word.
I then followed with reference to a piece on the topic, from the Salon, arguing that mostly, I agree with the sentiment expressed there and by a second piece, which it was critting, by Kira Cochrane in the Grauniad.
Then a lot more discursive material. I’m backing off from that.
There is absolutely no intent on my part to trivialise violence against women: there is realisation that i could be taken as doing that and therefore the answer is simple.
Apologies to anyone who was offended by any aspect of the debate: i will be a good deal more careful in future.