It is definitely easier to get on with some groups than others. And while it is never a good idea to be unkind, i have just been reminded (by Alex in respect of my last post) that that is easier philosophy to profess than practice sometimes.
I’ve apologised for any hurt given and Alex’s point is taken. Though, still, it leaves me with questions to ask.
This umbrella thing, for instance. I mean its there over all of “My transsexual summer”. Except it doesn’t totally make sense to me.
I set a lot of store by empathy. So I am very aware when there are people and groups I find easy to empathise with – and when I have difficulty.
MTS features both trans men and trans women. Does it make sense to place them in the same house? As though we are defined more by our transness than our gender?
What do I have in common with a trans man? That’s an interesting question, given that I began last week in conversation with a trans woman who was a lot less than happy with what she took as some serious misogyny directed towards her by a trans man…and ended with a delightful chat to two trans guys at a party on Saturday night.
Then there’s the whole tv scene that I freely admit to.”not getting”…though even as I write that I’m not entirely sure I know what I mean…
I’m not arguing AGAINST anyone or anything. Have no probs with individuals as individuals.
Actually, i’m possibly just thrashing around here, as the end to this post will make clear. Thus, i have no probs with individual men…though if you were to hand me a free invite to a rugby club social for this weekend, i’d probably turn it down. There is something that doesn’t, for me, click about such gatherings…just as there is probably much about some of my favourite spaces that men would run a mile from.
Its a bit the same with some t-girl spaces: nothing against individuals – but in general, those spaces are not for me. except, from the outside, there is sometimes presumption that because of that t-word thing (“trans”), there should be some commonality.
So-o…i guess this post is first off a toe in the water on my own part trying to understand these things better. There are political consequences to the idea of a trans umbrella….but what do we all have in common?
And more to the point, what are the dividing lines? No doubt my own reaction here neatly fits some view of how trans women respond on this issue – though i hope i’ll never express the levels of hostility that i have seen on some forums where ts/tv clash?
What’s the overlap? What’s the difference? What do trans men want from trans women – and vice-versa? What, too, of the tv community? How much cross-over is there? How far are we really at odds?
Questions, questions…but mostly born of the realisation that in this area, at ,least, my thinking is far more rudimentary than it is elsewhere, and if anyone wishes to chip in with some thoughts of their own, i’d be more than happy to listen.