The other way you know i’m feeling better is that i have now begun to worry about what to wear again.
Nah. Not on a day to day basis. I’d say i have that one more or less pegged and even if i come in for a bit of criticism from others around the house, its criticism based more on rejection of the style i opt for, rather than “Jane…you’ve got it totally wrong”.
i mostly dress well, neat and appropriate for my shape and age. I’m even – weird one this – beginning to grow a sense not just of what is currently in fashion, but also what is likely to be in fashion in the coming months.
Another area, perhaps, for a little quiet grieving? I’ve said – wholly without irony – that had i been born and always lived female, i’d quite happily have gone down the beautician route. That whole area fascinates. And so do clothes. I could sit for hours in a cafe, now and size up the women who enter, deconstructing how their look “works”: what they’ve done; and what they haven’t.
So sad. Another of those worlds that remained hidden for me throughout most of my life.
But i do have a problem. It lies in the more formal areas of attire. I noticed it a month or so back when i did the evening awards ceremony, and realised i don’t have a full evening dress, and had to improvise. Was totally on tenterhooks right up to the moment i arrived and checked out what the other women were wearing.
Too, i am not sure about work wear. Again, not everyday. Most of my work, nowadays, is as a journalist and i know to a T exactly what works for me, what is appropriate, and so on. I do smart casual quite well – and it works fine for press conferences, one-to-one interviews and House of Commons receptions.
But i also still, sometimes, do consultant work. I have a meeting in early september that i will need to attend and…i am ever so slightly worrying already. Its difficult. Consultant in front of client seems to involve blokes wearing suits and quitye smart work attire for women. I have a few formal work-y pieces, but nowhere near enough. Or maybe i haven’t the courage, yet, to shift outside plain navy skirt and blouse.
Still, that’s fairly clear. It gets complicated when it is consultant meeting consultant (as this meet will be). Then, the blokes seem to drift back towards jeans, chinos and polo necks of one form or another. You can tell they are consultants by the way it is all clean and neatly pressed…but otherwise, its not terribly distinguished.
And at that point, my own dress sense goes to pot. What’s the female equivalent? Its certainly not as casual as my journalist get-up. But its not exactly formal either. He-elp!
Need to build the wardrobe here without spending a small fortune!
Hints, tips and anything else very, very gratefully received.