Well, you didn’t, really. But reality is starting to break through. The operation, last week, collided ever so slightly in my psyche with the one that i am now starting to think about next year.
Lying there after the anaesthetic, drifting back up towards consciousness, aware that some surgeon had been chopping around between my legs. There had been the inevitable jokes beforehand: if you cut a bit too much, i won’t sue. But now, serious….
I think until recently the operation, the big one, the gender re-assignment one…has hovered at the edges as theoretical possibility. No more. But with every week it solidifies a little more.
First advice i had was go to Thailand. World class surgeons. Significantly lower cost than the UK. What could be better? Or Canada? Ah, but the pound is too weak: you’d pay a fortune.
Medical advice from someone who is now long post-op: there is a technical difference to the Thai surgical technique which – i won’t go into the gory details – may leave one with slightly less “depth” down there, and possibly a far longer need to dilate.
Oh, yes: i’ve learnt that one. Even post-op i will need to dilate every so often, else disaster is quite capable of striking. On the other hand, Thai surgeons, reputedly, seem more interested in preserving some sexual function post-op.
So there are pros and cons to Thailand. Another friend now chips in with: “riots and after-care”. Yep. Heard that too. Maybe not ideal to have major surgery in a country prone to armed insurrection – and where i would need to hire post-op nursing separately? What if? What if they turned out to be awful?
Which starts to point me back to the UK, and two names begin to be repeated by those who know: Tim Terry at Leicester; Phil Thomas over at Brighton. Some say one, some say t’other.
And mustn’t forget: must, must, MUST get sensitive areas electrolysed at least six months before the op.
No. Nothing is final yet…but options are defining and narrowing. Anyone else who knows, who has experienced, or faced the same choices, please feel free to pitch in.